tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post1828932406468233617..comments2023-10-11T00:09:04.503+11:00Comments on Mrs Negative: We Three...Monyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00742317718027412003noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post-16841705831593952272007-06-26T09:53:00.000+10:002007-06-26T09:53:00.000+10:00Hi, just wanted to tell you that risks associated ...Hi, just wanted to tell you that risks associated with amnio are far lower than previously thought (risk of 1 in 1,600 of miscarriage):<BR/>http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15673977/site/newsweek/<BR/><BR/>Additionally, experienced practitioners have even better odds. I had a CVS done and my advice is to take things ultra easy. While it is quick, it is painful and feels invasive. Plus you will experience cramping for the next 2 days. I hate the nuchal test because it does not mean much: parents worry for nothing, and some think their kids are OK when they have problems (one of my friends found out her kid had Trisomy 18 despite a perfectly fine nuchal). I am keeping my fingers crossed for you.Marie-Baguettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01149548077358647791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post-30252781237190849052007-06-23T01:43:00.000+10:002007-06-23T01:43:00.000+10:00I am keeping you in my prayers and thoughts. Readi...I am keeping you in my prayers and thoughts. Reading this my heart was breaking. I just want to be able to make this ok for you. Whatever the decision , whatever the outcome.Kirhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17894442143508446312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post-71109029025929653872007-06-21T06:50:00.000+10:002007-06-21T06:50:00.000+10:00Make a decision that feels organic to your being, ...Make a decision that feels organic to your being, because I believe that if you make decisions for the right reasons, good things will happen, even when the goodness doesn't seem evident.<BR/><BR/>My thoughts are with you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post-3739972420894785642007-06-20T06:19:00.000+10:002007-06-20T06:19:00.000+10:00Keeping you in my prayers. I believe that everythi...Keeping you in my prayers. I believe that everything will work out fine.<BR/> {{{{{{{{Sending you hugs}}}}}}}}}<BR/>from the other side of the world!Gemini Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10814946729788376692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post-29318478426967007722007-06-20T04:09:00.000+10:002007-06-20T04:09:00.000+10:00One of my clse friends has just gone through the s...One of my clse friends has just gone through the same thing, so i can relate to all the thought processes you are going through. <BR/><BR/>I am sending you lots of love and hope that everything is going to be just fine.Beckshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01893937400698223343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post-29931311224268796352007-06-20T03:18:00.000+10:002007-06-20T03:18:00.000+10:00Tough decidion. I hope to God it all works out to ...Tough decidion. I hope to God it all works out to a healthy, happy family.queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00539184323507342634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post-50409072200095455712007-06-20T00:21:00.000+10:002007-06-20T00:21:00.000+10:00good freakin' grief. WHY WHY WHY? must everything ...good freakin' grief. WHY WHY WHY? must everything for us infertiles be so difficult!! <BR/>i hate this for you. i am so sorry ms. mony. <BR/>steel yourself and surely this will be all fine soon.The Oneliner (Christina)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03997049405594118170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post-33602172314886952062007-06-19T23:46:00.000+10:002007-06-19T23:46:00.000+10:00Oh Mony.... I am sorry you have to go through this...Oh Mony.... I am sorry you have to go through this shit! <BR/><BR/>You and hubby will make the choice that is right for you. I hate the fact that you even have to deal with this... not fair at all.<BR/><BR/>Virtual Hugs sent your way. Know you are in my thoughts and prayers...<BR/><BR/>Tracey~singletraceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15361586713986688123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post-57330419857153671812007-06-19T22:12:00.000+10:002007-06-19T22:12:00.000+10:00Mony, I'm sorry you are going through this turmoil...Mony, I'm sorry you are going through this turmoil. You and your dh will make the right choice for your family. Follow your hearts. <BR/>~jenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post-20381441310621981472007-06-19T21:46:00.000+10:002007-06-19T21:46:00.000+10:00Another well wisher Mony. And whatever decision yo...Another well wisher Mony. And whatever decision you make (or have made) will be the right one.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post-51950649376626663252007-06-19T12:13:00.000+10:002007-06-19T12:13:00.000+10:00Still I lurk ... but not really lurking ... just w...Still I lurk ... but not really lurking ... just wishing and hoping and trying to believe what I've always believed ... good things to good people :) <BR/><BR/>You are good people. And I believe good things are to come. You deserve it! I'm here and so hopeful!Irish Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13222992447645337845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post-15189150671563220832007-06-19T05:10:00.000+10:002007-06-19T05:10:00.000+10:00I too am sorry you are even having to face these d...I too am sorry you are even having to face these decisions. Whatever you choose is right for you, I always say.<BR/><BR/>Wishing for the best for you 3.Dr. Grumbleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09448780702110352118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post-78852369654774380302007-06-18T21:31:00.000+10:002007-06-18T21:31:00.000+10:00Hi again.. I just wanted to pop in and say hang in...Hi again.. I just wanted to pop in and say hang in there. I'm thinking of you and what I would do in your position. It isn't easy sweetie. Lots of love!<BR/><BR/>~rreginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05333935344867653158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post-61220608318503899962007-06-18T20:40:00.000+10:002007-06-18T20:40:00.000+10:00So sorry you're going through this. My thoughts a...So sorry you're going through this. My thoughts are with you and your family hoping for the best for you guys.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07843760065614670505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post-15716557714116096872007-06-18T12:59:00.000+10:002007-06-18T12:59:00.000+10:00I'm so very sorry that you're having to deal with ...I'm so very sorry that you're having to deal with all of this. I know this can be a really hard decision, even whether to amnio or not.<BR/><BR/>Listen to Thalia. Find the best person at doing amnios and the risk will be very very slight. And then you will have much more information (hopefully, nice reassuring information).milliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09710325487325258355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post-78327453801141458812007-06-18T09:21:00.000+10:002007-06-18T09:21:00.000+10:00Stay strong, lean on me if you need to.Stay strong, lean on me if you need to.Runergirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01291339804117324837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post-73719558106066603582007-06-18T06:31:00.000+10:002007-06-18T06:31:00.000+10:00I remember this time in our pregnancy too. It's no...I remember this time in our pregnancy too. It's not easy and you constanty question your every decision. You'll know what's right in your heart for what you'll do. One in twenty sounds really scary, but if you do the math, it means there's a 95% chance that you will have a perfect baby. My thoughts and prayers are with you through this difficult decision.Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07471857660665228017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post-38323177838255116972007-06-18T01:28:00.000+10:002007-06-18T01:28:00.000+10:00I can't imagine how difficult this is for you. I ...I can't imagine how difficult this is for you. I do know of many, many people who have done amnio without any complications, and the risks of that procedure, especially with an experienced doctor, are quite small. Good luck to you.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12460332191706365559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post-37647642376777555412007-06-17T23:55:00.000+10:002007-06-17T23:55:00.000+10:00God...I can only imagine your head at the moment. ...God...I can only imagine your head at the moment. I am thinking of you guys. I have no words of anything else except that trust in your instincts and your decision.Eggs Akimbohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12729283040825906242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post-24810242768135580172007-06-17T20:10:00.000+10:002007-06-17T20:10:00.000+10:00Oh Mony I wish this was easier. Well done for maki...Oh Mony I wish this was easier. Well done for making a decision. Not sure what the timing is, but to give yourselves as much peace of mind as possible, may I suggest a bit of research on the centre (and dr) which does the most amnios per year? The amnio miscarriage rates are lower than you think (1 in 1600 vs 1 in 200 according to various sources) now that more of them are done, but the person who does the most is the person with the lowest miscarriage rate. <BR/><BR/>You probably know this already, just wanted to offer it, and my support. Hang in there, and don't worry about the 3kilos.Thaliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12125639207843989848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post-39689384425132916342007-06-17T12:09:00.000+10:002007-06-17T12:09:00.000+10:00Just reading...thinking...praying for you guys. Ho...Just reading...thinking...praying for you guys. Hold onto that flipside - 98% that HEf is gonna be just great. As for Amnio - follow your heart. No one can decide that for you, I know what I would do, but we are completely different kettles of fish :-)<BR/><BR/>In the meantime, please know there is a Kiwi who is sending virtual hugs and good vibes and all kinds of nice thoughts your way...Pixxieehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00754587423106234555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post-12683436397845412352007-06-17T10:05:00.000+10:002007-06-17T10:05:00.000+10:00Oh Mony I'm so sorry! I have to say that I would p...Oh Mony I'm so sorry! I have to say that I would probably go ahead with the amnio,, just because I would feel the need to be prepared. But I know that it is a very personal decision, and honestly I don't even know that a decision on what you would do can be made <I>before</I> knowing the results.<BR/><BR/>Whatever you decide, I hope that this all turns out to be a false alarm! I'll be keeping you in my prayers!PCOSMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11614791584850988099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post-91503704996151943522007-06-17T04:47:00.000+10:002007-06-17T04:47:00.000+10:00Hi Mony, I don't think I've commented here before ...Hi Mony, I don't think I've commented here before but I've been following your story. I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this stress.<BR/><BR/>I am currently pregnant (at 41) and we will get our quad screen result in a month or so. If it is high risk, we will do amnio. Franky I have no idea what we will do if the baby has Down or some other problem - but I do know that that isn't something I would want to discover in the delivery room. If we are going to have a baby with special needs, we need time to process that information and to prepare to meet those needs. If the baby is so unwell that we need to consider terminating, well, obviously we want that information as soon as possible. (The question is, where is that line?, and that is where I do not have an answer yet.)<BR/><BR/>Anyway, my point is that I don't think an amnio is just for your peace of mind - it is for the baby too. I guess it is the first real decision we have to make as "parents," even if technically we are not parents yet.<BR/><BR/>Hope this helps<BR/>JMWAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post-70435941296845766102007-06-17T03:15:00.000+10:002007-06-17T03:15:00.000+10:00I am so sorry you are having to go through this......I am so sorry you are having to go through this... I can't even imagine the stress you have to be under. All three of you will be in my thoughts.Tiffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03241317724344837345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13214904.post-76340550977403810412007-06-17T02:21:00.000+10:002007-06-17T02:21:00.000+10:00I'm so sorry I've missed this turn of events. I c...I'm so sorry I've missed this turn of events. I can't imagine how you must be feeling right now. Obviously, there's only the decision that is right for you.<BR/><BR/>Best wishes, and hoping this is one healthy baby. Thinking of you.Larisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02318809810451900023noreply@blogger.com