Mrs Negative

Mrs Negative embraces her tardy Positive. Life after IVF and loving the son I never thought I'd have.

Tuesday, May 08, 2007

Old Question. New Answer.

So there I was at the Hairdresser's. Reclining at the shampoo tub getting lathered up by a perky 18 year old. One of the best parts of a haircut is the WASH! Small talk ensued. Rinsing, scalp massaging...and then came "The Question".
You know the one that every seasoned IF'er has deflected a million times:
"So, do you have Kids ?"

How many times have I answered that painful query? As many as you, I'm sure.
Sometimes I'd answer with a firm "No".
Other times with a sad "Not Yet... or perhaps with a hopeful "Maybe one day"

I felt lucky to be asked that question as I sat with my eyes closed at the shampoo tub, water splashing on my face disguising tears as I calmly answered Miss Perky.
"Actually.." I spoke "I am expecting my 1st child now. I am 2 months pregnant"
"Oh!" squeaked Miss Perky. "Have you picked any names yet?
"Not yet" I said.
Even though I knew this baby had several names....Miracle. Salvation. Joy.
And with staggering normalcy our polite conversation veered off to a new topic.

It was so incredible to speak such words. Words that I'd dreamed of a zillion times.
Peace lingered in my heart way after the diffuser was switched off.
Every waking moment is consumed by relief and happiness.
And my new haircut isn't bad either.


Blogger Stacie said...

Only someone who has walked a mile in an Ivfer's shoes would understand how truly special that moment must have been!

You are pregnant! Yea!

Oh yeah, glad the haircut is nice, too!


Blogger PCOSMama said...

It's always nice when a new haircut makes you feel good. Glad this one was extra special!
Can you find a way to post your ultrasound photo? I'd love to see just how identical our babies look! ;)

Blogger Dramalish said...

Ooo! I want to see the new haircut! I'm jonesin' for one myself.

And it is wonderful to say those words. Early in my pregnancy I wanted to tell people who hadn't even asked:

"Okay, ma'am; paper or plastic?"

"Plastic. And by the way, I'm pregnant!"

Blogger LabiaLady said...

Oh Mony! I hear you girlfriend... the first person I told was the blood collection nurse... It felt like such an amazing thing...

Blogger topcat said...

Oh what a lovely post. May the beautiful news be spread far and wide ... the mailman, bank teller, cashier, dry cleaning lady, dogwasher, electrician ... take a full page ad out in the paper. Sing it from the rafters. You GO!!!


Blogger Von said...

Hi Mony,

Thanks for dropping by.........

So happy too to read that you are embracing your pregnancy with all your heart.

Blogger Krista said...

I loved this post! It is so true that having a different answer affects you far more than anyone else. The conversation shifted quickly, but your memory of it will last a long time. By the way, doesn't it amaze you that her next question was "have you picked out names" at 2 months!

Blogger Mary Ellen and Steve said...

That must have been such a great moment for you. I am so happy to see that you are so happy! xx

Blogger Yum-Mum 2B said...

i get the excited giggles everytime i read your posts. this is so cool isn't it. :)

Blogger Hopeful Mother said...

I think all of us IFers have dreamed of the moment we can FINALLLY answer all of these "routine" questions with a different answer.


Blogger Lut C. said...

I was very happy when I could stop my dentist from making an X-ray today, because of my pregnancy. :-)
Especially since she looked like she was PG with her second - since we started trying of course.

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Blogger Robin said...

I'm so glad you have such great news to share, what a joy!

Blogger The Oneliner (Christina) said...

finally, the right (in so far as justice in the universe) answer!

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Please post a photo of the new haircut.

I remember wanting to scream it from rooftops. Say it as much as you like.

Blogger Heather said...

You just reminded me that I need to get something done with this head of mine! Yikes!

I'm so happy for you.

Blogger Von said...

I've tagged you. Come over and have a look.

Blogger Just another Jenny said...

I remember going to the hairdresser 11wks pg and my hairdresser + one other customer were pg. Inside of sitting there trying not to cry, I got to share in the pg talk and it felt so good that I'll never forget it.
That orange belt looks so good on you!

Blogger Susan said...

What a nice experience to have. I know you will cherish each one because the journey has been more so than any other. I wish you the best!

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