Mrs Negative

Mrs Negative embraces her tardy Positive. Life after IVF and loving the son I never thought I'd have.

Thursday, November 02, 2006

And now something Unexpected

I have some news.

It's not joyous. It's not easy to share. It's not on my "2006 to do" list.

I have left my husband.

Without disclosing too much gore, there is no third party. We have behavioural problems that need addressing & I have taken drastic steps to emphasise my intolerance.
I hope we can reconcile one day. For the first time in many years, the pursuit of motherhood has become priority number 21.

I will still drop in, of course. I feel strangely alienated right now, in my real life & in blogland.

The clear road ahead can so quickly become obscure & bumpy.
......man, this really sucks.

40 Comments:

Blogger Jennifer said...

go with that courage.

2/11/06  
Blogger heleen said...

Oh wow, man I am so sorry to hear this. You've written before about some difficulties, but also about making up, and the fun you guys had together. This is truly awful. I hope you'll get through this. Big hug.

2/11/06  
Anonymous Nancy said...

I am sorry, but I wanted to commend you for the courage to do something as opposed to letting bad situations linger. I hope you will be able to work thinkgs out. Wishing you the best....

2/11/06  
Blogger Thalia said...

Oh Mony I am sorry. I wish you a clear path through this difficult forest.

2/11/06  
Anonymous Nina said...

Mony! What? That was unexpected to read. I am so so sorry! I too hope that you find a clear path through this new type of hell.

Many hugs!

2/11/06  
Blogger Hopeful Mother said...

Mony, I am sorry to read this. I hope that you can remain confident in your decision, and that after the dust settles, some good can come of this.

I admire your courage in moving forward and wish you success in getting everything worked out.

2/11/06  
Anonymous Erin said...

Mony, I wish you continued strength during such a difficult time.

2/11/06  
Anonymous Carrie P said...

yow, that came as a shock. What a tough time you must be having. Thinking of you.

2/11/06  
Blogger Sparkle said...

Sorry to read this Mony. I know the steps you have taken would have taken alot of courage.
Please don't feel alienated, people understand more than you think.
Take care.

2/11/06  
Blogger SmarshyBoy said...

Mony! Jeeeesus Christ. This must be such a terrible time for you. I truly admire the amount of courage you must have, I know there was no way that decision was easy to make.

Along with all those commenters above, I hope you find some peace and I hope some good comes from this. I'm so sorry.

2/11/06  
Blogger Irshlas said...

Delurking to wish you the best. I made a similar difficult decision. At the time, it devastated so many people. In the end, it made so many people happy. Again, whatever the best path for you is, I hope that you find it.

2/11/06  
Blogger GZ said...

Aw Mony. I am so sorry. I admire your courage and hope things all work out for the best. I hope the alienated feeling goes away, and you can find support in blogland for this, too.

I'll be praying for you.

2/11/06  
Blogger Bugsy said...

oh wow - you are right - I didn't expect that! I do hope you are okay, and I also commend you for the courage of taking this step for the better good of all. I do hope it has the desired effect and things go the way you want them to. Sometimes I wish I had half the guts you are displaying. Good on you girl and all the very best.

2/11/06  
Blogger Lut C. said...

Holy cow! That is a surprise!

Marital crises are hard nuts to crack. I hope you find a resolution soon, either way.

2/11/06  
Blogger Heather said...

You are very courageous.

Like Sparkle said, Please don't feel alienated.

I didn't just read your blog because it was IF but because of who you are. You will be missed.

I'll be thinking about you.

3/11/06  
Blogger Hope548 said...

I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you are able to get things straightened out.
Take care

3/11/06  
Blogger Krista said...

Oh Mony, I know how hard this is. I hope that your very courageous step has the desired effect and that you are both able to do what is necessary to take these problems very seriously and work through them.

But if you aren't, then I think you are an incredibly brave and smart woman for taking care of you and not allowing yourself to be caught in a relationship that doesn't make you happy.

Thinking of you and hoping you don't stay away long.

3/11/06  
Blogger serenity said...

*delurking*

You are one strong woman, hon.

Courage and love to you right now.

*HUG*

3/11/06  
Anonymous Julie said...

Wishing you peace in your very courageous decision. Please try not to feel too alienated. As someone else said, I read this blog because of you - not your IF.

3/11/06  
Anonymous MichelleL said...

Adding in my support as well. I do hope things start to look clearer very soon.

3/11/06  
Anonymous Flicka said...

Good luck, my dear.

xo

3/11/06  
Anonymous kiwi said...

I'm sorry to read this Mony.
I hope you find peace with whatever lies ahead for you.

3/11/06  
Blogger Milenka said...

Oh, sweetie. *hugs* I'm thinking of you and sending positive thoughts.

3/11/06  
Blogger LabiaLady said...

Mony, I'm sorry... I hope this time apart gives you guys what you need to move forward... in whatever shape or form that takes.

keep on banging those drums girl!

3/11/06  
Blogger Artblog said...

Wishing you all the best, you don’t know me, but I thought you might appreciate another supportive commentary. Wishing you lots of strength, mental strength especially.

Artblog

3/11/06  
Blogger Piccinigirl said...

It is sad to hear, but you being the strong woman you are , I know you made the right choice. I wish you comfort and luck as this new chapter begins.

4/11/06  
Blogger Just another Jenny said...

Mony, I want to jump through this damn blog and give you a hug. Some of your previous posts have left me wondering if there were some problems. I think you are very brave/smart to do what is right for you. I hope that this next while isn't too difficult and that you've got the support/love of friends and family.
p.s. - am I free to persue my woman crush on you now?

4/11/06  
Blogger Mellie said...

Mony - I'm so sorry to hear such news. But you must do and continue to do what makes sense for you! Consider this a big cyberhug. And keep on rockin' out, ok? That's my favorite way to think of you.

4/11/06  
Blogger Chelsi said...

I'm so very sorry. What a sucky curveball! Lots of strength and hugs to you.

4/11/06  
Blogger Dramalish said...

Mony.
You are one of the most special people I have the pleasure to share cyber with...
I am so so sorry that you are having troubles, but I'm also glad that you have decided that you deserve to be treated in the way befitting a wonderful woman such as you are...
I will be checking on you from time to time if that's okay. You are too wonderful to be down long, ok?
-D.

4/11/06  
Blogger Em said...

Mony - wow! Thst kind of socked me between the eyes! I hope you keep blogging and really get what you need from this time by yourself. I admire your courage.

4/11/06  
Anonymous T said...

Wow indeed! You are very courageous - wishing you the best for a speedy resolution.

5/11/06  
Blogger Susie said...

Mony - I am so sorry to hear of your news. It is a brave step and as one of the girls said above go with courage. I wish you all the best during this difficult time.

5/11/06  
Blogger Spanglish said...

Mony, I've been absent and yours was the 1st site I checked... I'm so sorry for this crazy, upsetting time in your life. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

5/11/06  
Blogger My Reality said...

I hope that the road ahead clears for you soon and the right path becomes obvious. I wish you luck in your journey.

6/11/06  
Blogger Dunn Family said...

So sorry to hear this. Just checking in and read the news. You will figure out what is best for you. Have faith in your decisions. We are all wishing the best for you. Take care of yourself. You are all you have in the end.
~Delurker..Kim~

6/11/06  
Blogger theoneliner said...

oh, i am so sorry to hear. good grief, you're a strong woman.
wishing you peace.

7/11/06  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Mony.
So sorry to read about your situation. I hope all works out for you - you are a wonderful person who deserves a great relationship. I have followed your blog for a while and wish you all the best.
Pls keep blogging. We are truly interested in 'you' not just baby stuff.
xx

8/11/06  
Blogger Carol said...

That's a very brave move and I'm sure took tons of courage to do. I wish you the best of luck in figuring out the next steps in your life. Hopefully you will continue to post and keep us updated on how you are.

9/11/06  
Blogger The Town Criers said...

Wow--Mony. Just wanted to let you know that I'm sending a lot of strength your way right now. I hope things get better.

10/11/06  

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